There has been an endless debate about whether love at first sight exists. For years I have argued that the feeling we associate with love at first sight is really lust at first sight. There has to be some form of attraction to make someone want to talk to a member of the opposite sex. That attraction is lust. There's not really anything a person can do about it. The feeling is overpowering but that doesn't mean that it's love.
I believed that up until about a month ago. I believed that until the moment I fell in love with a girl that walked into my office looking for a job. I suppose I don't know if it is actually love that I'm feeling but it certainly is a power that I'm not that familiar with. I look at lust as merely a physical attraction and this is so much more. I want to be around her. I want to talk to her and learn everything about her. I want to see her smile at every chance I get. I spend time daydreaming about things that we could do together. Honestly, I'm becoming a cliche of epic proportions but I have no problem with it at all.
Truth is, I met this girl about a year and a half ago. I met her during a lunch meeting with a co-worker and I recall having similar feelings at that time as well, however, the circumstances were different. After spending nearly 2 hours talking and becoming more and more interested in her, I found out that she was not single. This came as quite a blow and I remember feeling pretty down about it. It was a strange time for me because I barely knew her. Actually, I didn't know her at all. I had lunch with her, her boss and a co-worker yet I was still hurt when I found out she had a boyfriend. We stayed in limited contact for a couple months after that lunch but she eventually that ended and I never thought I would see her again. That was until the day I saw her in the lobby of my office.
It was like a flood with all those feelings I had left behind flowing back into me at full force nearly knocking me on my ass. I was speechless for a moment and likely looked like a bumbling fool when she said hello. I'm not positive that it is love that I'm feeling but it is definitely more than lust. Maybe all these years I've been the crazy one and not all those people I've argued with. I'm not always good at admitting when I'm wrong but I'm willing to wave the white flag on this one. All this time I thought that I had been in love before, and maybe I have, but I've never felt these feelings before. I wonder where they are planning on taking me. Wherever it is, I hope it's a long ride.
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