Ass Out Hug

I'm starting to think that those cultures in the world that believe in arranged marriages totally have it right. How easy would dating life be if you already knew who you were going to spend your life with? OK, it's certainly not a perfect system. You could end up with someone that you truly loathe and that would be bad, but think about all of the stress and aggravation you'd save yourself by not dating.

I don't mind being single. I generally don't find it to be a problem. The things I do with my life are decided by me and don't need to be confirmed with someone else first. That may sound a bit selfish, and to an extent it is, but I think being single allows you to be a little selfish. It's not an option when you become part of a couple. The only time time I do find it frustrating to be single is when I become genuinely interested in someone. That's the situation I'm currently in. I have found myself starting the dating game which is absolutely one of the most excruciatingly painful things to do.

I woke up this morning and thought a little about my situation. I was thinking about when it would be appropriate for me to ask the girl in question out again. There are all these unwritten rules that I wish someone would actually put down on paper. I was immediately overcome with that uncertain feeling in my stomach and haven't been able to shake it yet. I was reminded of that wonderful quote from Wedding Crashers...

"Janice, I apologize to you if I don't seem real eager to jump into a forced awkward intimate situation that people like to call dating. I don't like the feeling. You're sitting there, you're wondering do I have food on my face, am I eating, am I talking too much, are they talking enough, am I interested I'm not really interested, should I play like I'm interested but I'm not that interested but I think she might be interested but do I want to be interested but now she's not interested? So all of the sudden I'm getting, I'm starting to get interested... And when am I supposed to kiss her? Do I have to wait for the door cause then it's awkward, it's like well goodnight. Do you do like that ass-out hug? Where you like, you hug each other like this and your ass sticks out cause you're trying not to get too close or do you just go right in and kiss them on the lips or don't kiss them at all? It's very difficult trying to read the situation."

The writers of that film hit the nail on the head. There is so much to worry about before you even get into an actual relationship. I'm one of the few that thinks it would be easier if you could just come out and say that you were interested in someone. Why is that so bad? If the feelings aren't mutual I can see where it would be rough on the other person but I think I'd rather know if I was barking up the wrong tree before I waste too much time over thinking everything. Then again, what good is a strong relationship without a little heartache?